The Kind of Man She Would Follow Half Way Around The World

Many men are convinced that if they just find the right woman then everything will be perfect in their marriage. They either think that they are fine as they are or they think that they dont have to change or dont want to.

They want their wives to accept them for who they are.

Okay. Lets take a look at who you are.

How did you prior relationships or marriages fair? If you are a widower and the reason you are looking for a new spouse is because your wonderful spouse died -- you may be right you may be a great husband and father.

For the rest of you, and I am including myself in this group, take a look at all of your relationships that failed. What is the common denominator in all those relationships? Give up?

YOU. Thats right. You are the common denominator in all your failed relationships.

That should give you a clue that there are chinks in your armor.

Lets go through a checklist:

Do you drink alcohol to excess or use drugs?

How often?

Every day?

Every week?

Have you gotten into trouble with the law or at work or in your relationships because of this?

Do you gamble?

Do you bet on sports or other events?

How often do you go to gaming casinos?

Do you bet more than you can afford?

Can you stay within your pre-set limit?

Has gambling been a problem in your past relationships?

Do you like pornography?

Do you frequent strip clubs or cathouses?

Have you had sex outside of your marriage or relationships in the past?

Have you been serially monogamous (faithful to your partner)?

Has sex been an issue in your relationships before?

Can you and have you had reasonably frequent sex with your past partners?

Do you have problems with sex (premature ejaculation, failure to get an erection, et cetera)?

Have you had problems at work because of sex (sexual harassment, having sex with coworkers, et cetera)?

Are you financially stable?

Can you provide for your wife?

Do you have financial problems or have you had financial problems in the past?

Are you current on your bills?

Do you have savings accounts and retirement accounts?

Do you have divorce settlements or child support payments that severely restrict your lifestyle?

Are you paying child support for minor children that you have?

Are you current on your child support?

Are you actively involved in your childrens lives?

Would you consider yourself a good example to your children and other children?

Do you spend time with your children?

Do you feel guilty about your relationship with your children?

Do you do things with them that you both like to do? Are children safe with you?

Are you safety conscious?

Do you wear a seat belt?

Do you have car insurance?

Do you have life insurance?

Do you have health insurance?

Do you have disability insurance?

Do you have property insurance?

Are you a safe driver?

Do you drink and drive?

Are you in good health?

Do you exercise?

Is your weight normal?

How would you rate your eating habits?

Would you be able to complete a five-mile hike without problem?

Are you able to play with your kids without problem?

How is your job?

Are you employed?

Do you find your job rewarding?

Is your job stable?

Do you frequently find yourself daydreaming about a new job?

Do you get along with your co-workers?

Would someone else describe you as a workaholic?

Would you describe yourself as a good person?

Would you describe yourself as a moral person?

Are you trustworthy?

Are you a good friend?

Do you have a few good friends or people you can confide in?

How are your family relationships?

Do you get along well with your parents and siblings?

Is your family structure a healthy one?

Do you consider yourself a spiritual or religious person?

Do you go to church or regular spiritual gatherings?

Are you considered a member in good standing at your church or spiritual organization by others in your organization? Do you have healthy hobbies and interests?

Do you read books and like to learn new things?

Is your television viewing taking over a large portion of your life?

Does your computer time cut into your family time or your involvement with others?

Do you have volunteer organizations that you donate time to?

Are you involved in coaching or other community activities in which you give back to the community?

If you answer these questions honestly, you should have a fairly good appraisal of yourself as a human being, potential husband, father, employee, and community member.

You know your strengths and your shortcomings.

Are you willing to work on your shortcomings to become a better person?

If not, then you probably arent going to make a very good husband and father. The best way to get in touch with your personal shortcomings is to get involved in a relationship.

Your wife will be more than happy to point out any shortcomings you have that are in your blind spot!

You can wait until she points them out or you can work on them yourself. I recommend that you take care of them yourself.

Do you know what the secret is to finding a perfect mate? The secret is that you have to attract her to you. Not with money, trinkets, bragging, buying her gifts, or showering attention on her.

You have to attract her on a cosmic level. You have to become the kind of human being whose personal standards are so high that you are irresistible to a woman who is looking for the ideal man.

It is a law of the universe that like attracts like. You are going to attract to yourself exactly the kind of person that you are.

The best way to attract the best quality woman for you is for you to become the best person you can be.

In other words, the process of finding the perfect mate is more about you becoming the best man you can be rather than it is about finding the best woman.

If you are the perfect man, you will attract the perfect woman.

You now know your assignment work on developing your personal strengths and minimizing your personal weaknesses.

Become the kind of man that she will leave everything that she knows and loves behind and follows half way around the world to have and to hold.

The process of wooing, winning, and wedding the woman of your dreams has been a personal quest for you.

Like the knights of old, to join the Round Table, they had to venture on a quest where they used all their talents, skills, and mental toughness and ingenuity to accomplish their quest.

The quest in itself was not the important thing. It was how the knight was transformed while on his quest. He became a better person. He was transformed into a man who could slay dragons or move mountains.

In the process of your pursuit of your ideal mate, you will be transformed. You will be become a better person, a better husband, and a better father.

Your quest to woo, win, and wed the woman of your dreams is more about you becoming the right man than it is about finding the right woman.

John Kunkle has been successfully married to a Belarussian wife for over five years. He has traveled extensively through Russia and other CIS countries. He will tell you why you should consider Russian women, how to meet them, how to bring your special woman home, and how to survive married life.

Why Unsuccessful People Believe What They Want To Believe About Dating

You may not think this pertains with Dating, but stick with me here.

It's fascinating to me to read what the media has to say when they've reported on a self created story that is just plain wrong.

Last week they were gleefully swarming over reports that Terrell Owens tried to kill himself (reports that have been thoroughly discredited), and before the season started they were manufacturing reports that he was faking a hamstring injury (although two of the NFL's best receivers, Hines Ward and Steve Smith missed more time with the same injury).

Why would the media do this? Because it's useful to them to believe what they want to believe. It gives them a reason to feel important via "outrage," knowing they will never have to experience any consequences for their actions.

If you aspire to any amount of success in life, whether it is financial, or dating desireable women of your choice, you have got to avoid people who believe what they want to believe, then attempt to impose those beliefs on others.

The world is rife with those types of people, and it is getting worse. Why? Because it's easy. When a person spends their time imposing a set of beliefs that is popular, it removes them from the responsibility of the outcomes those beliefs bring them. In fact, they often blame their outcomes on other people with more realistic beliefs--it's easier than taking responsibility for the outcomes those beliefs actually cause.

If you want to be successful, you have to do what works, and that often involves the painful process of changing your belief system, admitting that you've been dead wrong about some things, and taking on a very unpopular belief system (at least to the majority who get ordinary results).

But when you do so, your outcomes change, much to the chagrin of those around you who have chosen the easy path of adopting popular beliefs that produce conventional results. And, the squealing from those people only increases as the results you get begin to show them how hollow their beliefs really are.

You show up with a beautiful, intelligent woman you attracted using unpopular beliefs. You start a business, create a lot of value, and make a lot of money using unpopular beliefs. What do people believe? You scammed a bunch of others, and your girlfriend is with you only because of your "stolen money." Makes 'em feel better to believe this.

But in the end, they're the ones going home to an empty house with an empty bank account, silently envying your success, but too afraid to abandon the beliefs and the ego that would allow them to experience the same thing. So they run you down to make themselves feel better.

Pay no attention to them. It's the results that matter, not what others with unqualified opinions and dangerous beliefs have to say.

Let them squawk while you enjoy your life--the louder they squawk, the more successful you know you are.

John Alanis is the creator of the Ultimate Attraction system, at http://www.womenapproachyou.com . He also has a blog at http://www.johnalanis.com

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